THE EX-GOOD GIRL PODCAST
If you feel exhausted from constant people pleasing and perfectionism, and you're ready to stop but you don’t know how this podcast is for you!
I will help you learn to stop making other people comfortable at your own expense. I can show you a roadmap you can use to train yourself to stop abandoning your own desires and let go of the fear of what others will think. If you’re ready to stop pretending everything is fine, get out of the cycle of doubt, guilt, and resentment AND step into a life of power and freedom, tune in to The Ex-Good Girl Podcast!
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Episode 22 - From Conversion Therapy to LGBTQ Advocacy with Elena Joy Thurston
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
This week, I am joined by Elena Joy Thurston. Elena Joy is an inspiring LGBTQ speaker, trainer, and founder of the nonprofit Pride and Joy Foundation. This foundation is dedicated to reducing the rates of suicide and homelessness within the LGBTQ community. Elena Joy is also featured in the award-winning documentary, Conversion, and has delivered a viral TEDx talk on surviving conversion therapy.
Back in 2017, Elena Joy was a stay-at-home mom of four, deeply entrenched in her Mormon community. However, she began to question her happiness and realized that she was not attracted to men and is a lesbian. This realization led her to believe that she needed to be "fixed," prompting her to seek help from someone who claimed to have the solution. In this episode, Elena Joy delves into the dynamics of conversion camps worldwide, where the promise of an eternal reward of being united with their families in heaven is used as a manipulative tool to change and "fix" queer individuals. Ultimately, she discovered that the support she truly needed did not come from the church, which compelled her to choose life and embark on a journey of healing. In the process, she found a way to assist LGBTQ youth and individuals facing similar challenges. Elena Joy dedicates herself to daily healing work that positively impacts the world, and I am thrilled for you to listen to her story.
You can connect with Elena Joy on IG at @elenajoyspeaks @pridejoyfoundation
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Episode 21 - Loving Our LBGTQIA+ Kids with Andrea Parks and Wendy Montgomery
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
This week, I'm thrilled to have Andrea Parks and Wendy Montgomery joining me as we delve into how our upbringings shape us as parents and the transformative power of remaining loving and open. Andrea is a Clinical Therapist, Coach, and Reiki Master, while Wendy is an Empowerment, Life, and Enneagram Coach. Both of them proudly embrace their roles as moms to queer and transgender children. Together, they share their stories of their children coming out, encompassing both the beauty and the pain experienced on this journey. These families exude deep love for their kids and foster an environment of love and understanding. In supporting your queer and trans loved ones, it's important to let them guide you in understanding their needs. While our society may lack a comprehensive support system, there is support available if you're unable to find it at home. I can't wait for you to tune in and listen.
Connect with Andrea Parks on IG @theandreatales
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Episode 20 - "I Will Not Lose Myself" with Hannah Carlisle and Michelle Call
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
This heartfelt conversation sheds light on the possibility of discovering your true self and living authentically. Hannah Carlise and Michelle Call, therapist/life coach, join me in discussing coming out later in life and navigating conservative religious upbringings. Choosing ourselves may be challenging, and dismantling the barriers of societal conditioning takes time. If you find yourself constantly neglecting your own needs, it's time to break that pattern. Hannah and Michelle's stories serve as proof that you can liberate yourself from guilt and shame and live from your heart. Whenever you feel doubt, remember there are others out there going through something similar.
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 19 - Pleasure is a Human Right with Dr. Sonia Wright, MD
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
This is an exciting episode! Dr. Sonia Wright and I discuss pleasure and sex. She has opened my mind in so many ways and I hold her very close to my heart - We were in the same Master Certification class. Dr. Wright is not only a medical doctor and pediatric radiologist by training, but also a trained sexual counselor, master-certified life coach, and a passionate advocate of sexual empowerment. She's also a toys enthusiast and a midlife sex coach for women. Together, we delve into sexual intimacy, sexual orientation, gender, and women's health. Giving yourself permission to explore and discover who you really are is possible. Life is about enjoying it, we don’t have to fit into the good-girl mould and check off all of society's boxes. Everyone deserves to experience pleasure, and it's essential to make it a natural part of our conversations.
You can find Dr. Sonia Wright on IG @drsoniawright
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 18 - What Needs To Be Said with Alex Reegan
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
I am thrilled for you to tune in to this important episode of the Ex-Good Girl Podcast! In this episode, my dear friend Alex Reegan and I delve into the significance of feeling acknowledged and seen. Alex is a remarkable individual—a trans man, interfaith minister, author, speaker, and transformative spiritual coach. Growing up in an evangelical Christian family, he faced tremendous barriers in expressing his true identity. This led to years of battling depression, anxiety, and addiction as he sought to break free from the oppressive beliefs that constrained him.
Through his inspiring journey, Alex finally found solace in sobriety, shamanism, and seminary education, which enabled him to reclaim his faith and trust in the Divine. With unwavering dedication, Alex empowers others through speaking engagements, workshops, and personalized sessions, helping them unearth their truth, shed shame, and foster unity. Additionally, he wrote an incredible book titled 'What Needs to be Said.'
This episode centers around the transformative process of self-discovery and the path that leads us there. Alex is a true force of nature, wholeheartedly committed to choosing love and guiding others along their own journeys. I had the pleasure of meeting him in 2018, and he has profoundly impacted my life in countless ways.
I strongly believe that we all have much to gain from listening and learning. I am immensely grateful for this extraordinary episode and, most of all, for Alex's presence in our lives.
You can find Alex on IG @revreegs
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Episode 17 - Good Girls and Body Image with Corinne Crabtree
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
This week on The Ex Good Girl Podcast, I had a very special guest on this episode: Corinne Crabtree. She is an expert in helping women lose weight and feel as amazing as they truly deserve. Over a million women have taken her free weight loss course, and now she serves more than 14,000 paid members in the no BS weight loss program.
The diet industry has perpetuated a damaging mentality about what we should and shouldn't eat and how we should live. It takes time and support to break down the boundaries created by society and its fake rules. When we devalue ourselves, society ultimately wins. Instead, we should establish our own rules based on love. Corinne's work emphasizes shedding the mental weight we carry around. We transformed our internal conversations and now share our knowledge with the world.
It's all about making the conscious decision in every moment to prioritize yourself and your well-being. Let's celebrate ourselves daily!
You can find Corinne on IG @Corinne_Crabtree
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Episode 16 - F*ck Around and Find Out with Melanie Childers
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
In this week's episode, we f*ck around and find out! Our special guest is Melanie Childers, one of my closest friends in the business world. If you haven't found a business bestie yet, I strongly recommend you do, because Melanie plays a crucial role in reminding me of my true self and my immense capabilities. She's the driving force behind The Bad Bitch Mastermind, and you can find her podcast, The Bad Bitch Entrepreneur, on any podcast platform. During our conversation, we deal with processing emotions and how our past experiences have shaped us into who we are today. Now is the time to toss out the rule book and define what truly works for you. Embrace your individuality and make choices that align with your unique path.
You can find Melanie on IG @melaniechilderscoaching
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 15 - The Power of Having a Coach with Krista St-Germain
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
My former coach, Krista St-Germain, interviewed me for her podcast The Widowed Mom a while ago, and I'm excited to share it on The Ex-Good Girl. During the interview, we discuss people-pleasing: defining it and ways to overcome it. We also explore how our connection with ourselves can vary from person to person. This episode is particularly special to me as Krista has been incredibly helpful in my life. It serves as a reminder of the profound impact a good coach can have. People-pleasing can come at a significant cost: the amount of time and energy we spend on constantly cycling through thoughts about others and what they think of us. Some women can spend up to 3 to 5 hours a day in this cycle. It's about reclaiming our time, brain space, energy, and peace. With the help of the right coach, we can break free from this rumination wheel and take control of our lives.
You can find Krista on IG @lifecoachkrista
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Episode 14 - Mother-Daughter Relationships with Karen C.L. Anderson
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
In this week's episode, Sara interviews Karen C.L. Anderson, a Master certified life coach and author who specializes in coaching about the mother/adult daughter relationship. They discuss the challenges that often arise in this particular relationship, exploring the generational aspects and the societal shift towards acknowledging trauma and the importance of emotional expression. Karen shares insights from her own journey of estrangement from her mother and the subsequent healing process, emphasizing the need to separate one's identity from the expectations imposed by the mother-daughter dynamic. They delve into topics such as people-pleasing, guilt, regret, and the significance of setting boundaries in a relationship. Karen's approach highlights the importance of self-love and acceptance, challenging the belief that unconditional love is contingent on meeting certain conditions. Sara and Karen conclude by discussing the power of questioning and redefining the roles and stories that have been passed down through generations, offering a fresh perspective on nurturing healthier mother-daughter connections.
You can find Karen on IG @kclanderson
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Episode 13 - Healing in a Community of Women
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
Community is an essential aspect of life, and when women come together and share their stories, it can be one of the most powerful forms of learning.
When women unite, we can achieve great things and make a positive impact on ourselves and the world. Starting a new journey may seem daunting, but it can be made easier by breaking it down into manageable steps. I'll begin by asking you, "Why?" Why do you do the things you do? Why do you feel comfortable doing this? Why don't you enjoy doing that? We've been unconsciously programmed by the patriarchy, and I'm here to help you break down those barriers.
Working towards a collective goal enhances our learning and understanding. Witnessing others achieve their goals can also help us apply their teachings to our own lives. You are powerful, and a comfortable life is within your reach.
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Episode 12 - Our Story, Part 2
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
In this episode, My husband and I share many life experiences that have helped shape us into happier, healthier individuals. We prioritize authenticity with ourselves and each other, even though navigating life and relationships can be complex. We've come to realize how much we're influenced by outside forces, and we've learned to condition ourselves to be loving and respectful to all, including ourselves. We show up to honor each other's experiences and choose each other consciously every day. Unearthing self-love requires de-conditioning from things that were forced upon us. Remember, you own your life. We're here to share our story and remind you of your own power.
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Episode 11 - Our Story, Part 1
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
My husband Dan and I are excited to share this episode with you. We'll be discussing the reality of marriage and partnership, including our upbringing, the beginning of our relationship, marriage, children, and how we've grown both individually and as a couple. It's essential, to be honest with ourselves and others, and we'll be diving deep and getting real. Additionally, we'll explore ways to integrate self-care and break free from the patriarchal influences of our society. We've learned a lot through our many years together and are grateful to share our insights with you.
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 10 - Five Challenges That Will Change Your Life
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
Do you suppress your true emotions just to avoid conflict and keep the peace? Does your body feel relaxed, or is it trying to tell you how you really feel? Perfectionism, people-pleasing, and codependency can take over our lives. But we can learn to become detectives in our own lives and stop this toxic behavior. Eventually, the changes we make will align with our decision-making process.
In this episode, I explore the Five Challenges that have helped me become the most authentic and real version of myself. We need to be honest with ourselves, learn to ask for what we want, say No more often, be okay with disappointing others, and take care of ourselves. This episode offers many helpful tools to live more freely and comfortably.
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 9 - How to Have Your Own Back
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
Learning to have my own back is the most powerful thing I've ever done for myself; it unlocked my potential. Many women internalize their mistakes, leading to a spiral of shameful thoughts that can be very draining. But how can we shut that down? If we bully ourselves, then we're not safe with ourselves, and we're not safe anywhere. You deserve that essential safety. In this episode, I'll help you identify the bullying voice in your head and shut it down. Imagine yourself as a younger version of yourself. Would you allow someone to bully her? Remember, you deserve respect and love from everyone, including yourself. There are steps you can take to shut down the brain bully and stop the negative feedback loop. One of the biggest benefits of this practice is that you can handle trying new things and taking risks. Your fear drops, and you can live more freely overall.
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 8 - Women Wanting: A Guide to Your Superpower
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
What is it that you truly desire? After much personal reflection and research, I've come to realize that women's wants and desires are our secret source of power and direction. My goal is for you to have a greater sense of your desires and to understand why it's essential by the end of this episode. Unfortunately, our disconnection from our own desires happens at a very young age. We are raised by caregivers who provide us with love, belonging, and acceptance. However, this also means that children are often seen as less than adults and need to be molded into desirable traits, such as obedience and compliance. This can become problematic because it leads to an adult telling a child how to feel, such as saying "That didn't hurt, you're fine, shake it off." Although this is done with loving concern, it further disconnects us from our own feelings. We learn to not trust our impulses and instead trust outside voices. As we get older, there are more voices trying to influence us, but we need to trust our own voice first. This is why your wanting is your power. It's your inner compass that always points you in the right direction. My definition of a 'good girl' is someone who is overly connected to outside influences and under-connected to herself. Let me help you reconnect with yourself and your aspirations.
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Episode 7 - Too Much and Not Enough
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
The patriarchal, capitalist, Western way of life imposes certain values and expectations on the way women think, feel, and choose to live. When we fail to meet these expectations, we can often feel lackluster or unsatisfied. Even if we do attain these expectations, there is always another critique looming about the deficit in our lives. In this episode, we will discuss how perfectionism is a manifestation of these societal pressures, and explore ways to shift our mindset to focus on being better, rather than perfect. It's possible to feel accomplished in this society by doing things that bring us joy and make us feel whole. Instead of fixating on what we could do better, we can focus on celebrating our daily small wins and identifying what truly matters to us. What can you prioritize and celebrate more in your life? What are your daily achievements, no matter how small? How can you experience genuine satisfaction? Join me as I delve into these questions and more.
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Episode 6 - The Goldilocks Zone
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
In this episode, we will explore the concept of the Goldilocks Zone. Our Western patriarchal society often tells women that there is a "right" way to be, and as a result, we can feel like we are either too much or not enough. We have been programmed to be hypersensitive to the opinions of others and to internalize those thoughts as if they are facts. There is a balance to be found between being selfish and being a people pleaser. It takes time and guidance to find what feels right for you.
Throughout this podcast, I'll offer you guidance on how to navigate the space between extremes. I'll share tips on how to unplug from outside opinions of what you should be and instead, focus on relentlessly loving yourself. By the end of this episode, you will have a better understanding of how to find your own Goldilocks Zone and embrace your true self.
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 5 - My Story Part 2
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
How do our beliefs take shape? Are they ingrained subconsciously? Are you hiding your true feelings or opinions to avoid conflict? Straying from societal norms can be scary, as we may feel left out or isolated. Fear can keep us in a corner, but self-love and embracing our truth can help us break free. In this episode, I will explore how our society and certain groups train women to prioritize agreeableness, friendliness, and compliance. We may be trained to wait for external validation, but we can learn to trust ourselves and our inner dialogue.
Join me as I delve deeper into these topics and offer practical advice on how to speak up for yourself and others.
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 4 - My Story Part 1
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
Episodes 4 & 5 are about my story and the experiences that shaped my opinions and views. Experiences can take different forms - they can be both full of love and harmful teachings, create wonderful connections and deep anxiety, and be important for one phase of life but lose their significance as circumstances change. In this episode, I talk about my upbringing in the LDS (Mormon) Church, how it influenced me, and why I ultimately left.
When I created Stop People Pleasing, it was from a deeply personal autobiographical experience. People pleasing can feel like walking through life with 20-pound weights shackled to each ankle. You can do it, but you'll be dragging a lot of resentment, fear, and obligation with you, and you don't have to. Much of what I was taught contributed to this. I'm deeply grateful for some of it, but unlearning some of it was necessary to reclaim my sovereignty.
Whether it was religion, family culture, or society that taught you to be small or less than you are, it's time for the unlearning.
Find Sara here:
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https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333
What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 3 - Stop The Ride, I Want to Get Off
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
So how do we stop being a “Good Girl”? I will dive right into 5 steps you can take to break the cycle of people pleasing, perfectionism, and invite you to join me in recovering from “Good Girl Syndrome”! Do you want to teach your own brain a new way of being? How can we apply these steps at work, with our parents, and families? Is guilt and shame normal and how can we stay out of overwhelm AND feel our feelings? You can learn how to shed the “Good Girl” role and move yourself in the direction of becoming who you want to be in the world! I can help provide you with the tools you will need. Don’t let your discomfort dictate your life. Build trust in yourself and have your own back! I got you and you got this.
Find Sara here:
https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations
https://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/
https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach
https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333
What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Don't waste another day living someone else's version of your life.
Together we'll build self trust and break people-pleasing patterns so you can make decisions with confidence, free from guilt and overthinking.