THE EX-GOOD GIRL PODCAST
If you feel exhausted from constant people pleasing and perfectionism, and you're ready to stop but you don’t know how this podcast is for you!
I will help you learn to stop making other people comfortable at your own expense. I can show you a roadmap you can use to train yourself to stop abandoning your own desires and let go of the fear of what others will think. If you’re ready to stop pretending everything is fine, get out of the cycle of doubt, guilt, and resentment AND step into a life of power and freedom, tune in to The Ex-Good Girl Podcast!
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Episode 43 - How to Create Secure Attachment in Relationships
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
We are programmed to constantly worry about whether we are safe and loved. This comes from attachment styles we develop early in life. It can be helpful to identify your attachment styles because you can have a different style with different people in your life. In this episode, I’ll give you an overview of attachment styles so that you can think about what yours might be. Our attachment style can change- it's not a fixed verdict. We can do the work to heal the parts of us that limit our comfort in relationships, especially your relationship with yourself.
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 42 - How to Make Sense Of Your Chronic Pain with Deb Malkin
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
In this episode, Deb and I talk about repressed emotions and how they relate to physical pain. Deb Malkin is a feminist mind/body coach, specializing in using the tools of neuro + bioplasticity and consciously curious hypno-coaching to help people unlearn pain and emotional stress symptoms. As a queer, fat, radically unapologetic human with their own unique mind and body, Deb joyfully works with everyone. They bring an awareness of how the intersections of social conditioning, family narratives, and biopsychosocial determinants of health (racism, sexism, stigma...) impact our felt sense of wellness/wholeness/self-worth + love.
Find Deb here:
https://www.thecuriositycure.coach/
https://www.instagram.com/curiositycure.coach/
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 41 - Synthetic Gratitude: Why It Sucks and What To Do About It
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
“Just be grateful for what you have.” How many of you have heard this before? This is synthetic gratitude, which is a form of gratitude that is expected of women to provide and perform- to show we are staying in our place. I think understanding how synthetic gratitude works will be really helpful. In this episode, I’ve broken down 4 things that I've noticed due to synthetic gratitude and how to change it for your betterment. Can’t wait for you to listen!
Find Sara here:
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 40 - How To Disappoint Someone and Not Die Of Guilt and Shame
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
This episode is out just in time for the holidays, giving you a chance to wrap up the year with a little extra kindness for yourself. In this episode, I'll reveal seven life-changing steps. These steps might sound simple, but they're not necessarily easy to implement. It's worth keeping in mind that letting folks down is just part of life, and I'm here to help you deal with the worry and fear that can come with it. Uncomfortable feelings are something we all face from time to time, and the trick is to learn how to handle them while still showing ourselves some love along the way. Once you've given this episode a listen, I'd be thrilled to hear from you. Send me a DM and tell me how these steps played out for you.
Find Sara here:
https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations
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https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333
What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 39 - Midlife Magic with Jen Berlingo
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
I have an extraordinary guest this week! Jen Berlingo, MA, LPC, ATR (she/her) is a midlife coach, a licensed professional counselor, a nationally registered art therapist, and a master-level Reiki practitioner. She wrote a book called Midlife Emergence, which reached #1 in several Amazon categories. She is also a visual artist and created the painting on the cover of her book. Jen is a dynamic being who assists in helping others to hone in on their own desires and live their truth. In this episode, Jen and I go into the challenges that happen during midlife and how to better manage them.
Find Jen here:
https://instagram.com/jenberlingo
https://www.facebook.com/jenberlingotherapy
https://www.tiktok.com/@jenberlingo
https://www.etsy.com/shop/artsorceress
https://jenberlingo.substack.com/
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 38 - Why are the Holidays so Hard?
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
Let's talk about holidays and expectations. We want to make special memories for our loved ones but often put our own needs to the side to please everyone else. Boundaries can be tougher with family because of our upbringing. From gifting to decorating then planning, shopping, and cooking… the list goes on. I’m stressed out just talking about it! But there is a way to reduce that stress and make yourself genuinely happy while doing kind things for others. This episode is an emotional survival guide to the holidays and I’ll be discussing 4 steps you can take to make this time easier. Holiday happiness is possible for all- it just takes time, focus, and setting intentions beforehand. Can’t wait for you to listen.
Find Sara here:
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 37 - Boundaries with Olivia Vizachero
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
I am so excited to continue discussing boundaries this week with my special guest Olivia Vizachero! She is a Master certified life coach who helps people choose themselves as their top priority. When we decide to set a boundary and resistance comes up, that's where the work is. We can’t control how others react, we can only control ourselves and our thoughts and actions. Until you set a boundary, you will continue to feel discomfort. Which discomfort do you want to take on - the one that creates the best life for yourself or the one where you live in fear of other people's reactions?
Find Olivia Here:
https://www.thelessstressedlawyer.com
https://www.instagram.com/thelessstressedlawyer/
https://LinkedIn.com/in/oliviavizachero
Find Sara here:
https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations
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https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333
What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 36 - The B-word: Boundaries
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
Boundaries are about learning to share the power in any situation by identifying actions within your control. This week's and next week's episodes are all about boundaries. I have a special guest joining me next week, Olivia Vizachero, who will help me continue the conversation. Being a good girl means not having boundaries. It means that you are constantly prioritizing other people, putting off the things you need to do, and putting yourself, your needs, and your wants after everyone else's. You're praised and rewarded for it. But there’s another way of operating- establishing healthy boundaries. You can show kindness and love for yourself and others by setting boundaries with what works for you. It just takes some work and focus. Imagine how you would feel if you allowed some discomfort for your overall benefit. There are steps to take to make life function and flow for you. Can’t wait for you to listen. <3
Find Sara here:
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 35 - Women Talking: Movie Review with Chelsea Paxton
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
This is a powerful episode about an important movie, ”Women Talking”. I'm joined by Chelsea Paxton as we delve into the film's themes and the significance of language and speaking up. Sadly, women are often not taken seriously and are taught to suppress their feelings. Questions like "Are you really hungry?" or "Did that really hurt?" are dismissed with responses like "You’re fine," undermining women's experiences. It's crucial to change this lack of belief. Society often tries to dictate our roles, but reconnecting with our bodies and wanting is a challenge we can overcome. With the right resources and collective effort, we can create a more empowering and inclusive world.
Find Chelsea here:
https://www.instagram.com/chelseapaxton.coach/
Find Sara here:
https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 34 - Why Finding Your Voice Matters with Kristin Jensen
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
This week my vocal instructor Kristin Jensen joins me to discuss finding our authentic voice. There are so many rules around how women's voices are supposed to be used. Women often soften or dull their voices and don’t feel comfortable speaking freely and openly. Good Girl programming can block you from finding your soul's voice and makes you bury your needs deep down within. Kristin and I are here to help you find your voice within and express yourself honestly.
Find Kristin here:
https://www.kristinthevoicewitch.com
https://www.instagram.com/kristinthevoicewitch
Find Sara here:
https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations
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https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333
What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 32 - Good Girls and ADHD with Kristen Carder
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
This week the amazing Kristen Carder is joining me to talk about ADHD. I’ve been looking forward to this for a while. She is an incredible coach with 10 years of ADHD expertise and also my friend. I’ve started to become curious if I have ADHD after looking at the symptoms. It's mindblowing once you make the connections and realize that this might be something you struggle with. ADHD intersects with the "Good Girl" programming in that masking behaviors are often present in both. After Kristen’s diagnosis at 21 years old, she started her research and wanted to find a way to help others. She created the podcast, I Have ADHD, and the group coaching program called FOCUSED. There’s a lot in the episode that can help start the conversation with yourself and resources that can help if you think you have ADHD.
Find Kristen here:
https://www.instagram.com/i.have.adhd.podcast
Find Sara here:
https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations
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https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333
What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 31 - How Good Girl Programming Masks ADHD
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
This episode is an intro to the gender diagnosis gap with ADHD and our ingrained masking behaviors from social pressures to be a "Good Girl". Masking behaviors are the ways in which we perform, pretend, and suppress our emotions to be accepted. “Be polite, be nice, be on time”...all of this keeps us from attending to our real ADHD symptoms. You can be free of the shame, anxiety, and masking, it just takes time and finding the right resources. There are significantly fewer women properly diagnosed because we are performing and just trying to keep it together rather than getting the help we need. There’s nothing wrong with us. We have symptoms that affect how our brain works, and it has nothing to do with our character. If you've been curious about how you've been feeling, this is a great resource of information. There are tools to make life easier overall. Next week I have Kristen Carder joining me to delve deeper into this topic, you can check out her podcast ‘I Have ADHD’, and look into her group coaching program called FOCUSED.
Find Sara here:
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 30 - You're Not Selfish
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
How many times a day do you find yourself thinking, 'I’m selfish for doing this for me instead of doing something for someone else.' You're not alone. Rather than prioritizing our own well-being, women often give themselves only scraps of our day for self-care. Cultural expectations put women into roles that often call for them to be selfless, aka the caregiver or the nurturer. Humans who have been socialized as females tend to feel held to the “rules” of gender roles from the past. These ingrained expectations are further perpetuated by media and pop culture, reinforcing traditional gender stereotypes. Breaking free from the programming takes time and focus, but that's what I’m here for. Let's get to the root of the issue and change the way we think in order to heal this discomfort. You can do what you want without taking from others. It’s about balance but also about embracing you and all you’re capable of.
Find Sara here:
https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 29 - Ten Reasons Why Coaching Works to Stop People Pleasing
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
Wouldn't you love to have the golden ticket to a happier life? I got you! In this episode, I dive into the ten reasons why group coaching is effective in putting an end to people pleasing. If you're intrigued, mark your calendar for the week of September 18th, when my next group coaching course kicks off. I'm offering a variety of options, from a free consultation and webinars to enrollment in my comprehensive Stop People Pleasing course. I understand that coaching might seem unfamiliar to many, but that's exactly why this episode is here for you. We all deserve access to these valuable resources, and it lights me up inside to help people. Life's challenges can feel like stormy waters, but together, we can navigate them successfully. The key lies in embracing self-honesty and cultivating the necessary skills to stay on track and avoid getting derailed. One of the primary benefits of coaching is its ability to expedite this process; you receive guidance from individuals who have already traversed this path.
Find Sara here:
https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 28 - People Pleasing as a Trauma Response with Sara Hughes-Zabawa
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
In this week's episode, I'm joined by a special guest, Sara Hughes-Zabawa, as we explore the topic of people-pleasing as a response to trauma. Sara's passion lies in guiding clients toward thriving and enhancing their quality of life. She achieves this by cultivating heightened awareness, providing insights, building crucial skills, and offering top-notch education and resources.
People-pleasing often emerges as a deeply ingrained trauma response. Stemming from a desire to evade conflict or seek validation, this coping mechanism involves prioritizing others' needs and expectations over one's own well-being. Individuals who engage in people-pleasing may have encountered situations where their emotional safety was compromised. This led them to adapt by stretching themselves thin to maintain a semblance of control or connection. During our conversation, Sara and I discuss the importance of taking a pause when faced with stressful stimuli, as well as valuable tools to guide you through these situations. Recognizing people-pleasing as a trauma response is a crucial step toward healing. It enables us to address underlying wounds and gradually transition towards self-empowerment and authentic self-expression. Can't wait for you to listen and uncover the insights this episode holds.
Find Sara Hughes-Zabawa here:
IG: @beinginbalancewellness
Sara H-Z is currently taking a sabbatical from offering in person and on-line therapeutic services. However, please consider following her online and subscribing to her newsletter on her website to stay informed of future opportunities and events.
Find Sara here:
https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 27 - Inside the Stop People Pleasing Group Program
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
This week, three of my friends and clients, who are also coaches, have come together to discuss my Stop People Pleasing Group Program. This podcast episode provides deep insights into my program and its potential to enrich our daily lives.
Joining me are Kami Kirby, a parenting coach; Chelsea Paxton, who specializes in guiding women recovering from high-demand religions; and Laura Bond Williams, a coach and Pilates instructor. They embrace diverse roles as mothers, partners, wives, daughters, business owners, and employees, weaving a rich tapestry of human interactions and relationship experiences.
While some initially joined due to their coaching responsibilities and a desire to gain a better understanding of how people-pleasing manifests among their clients – whether they are women, children, or parents – what truly captivated me was how each of them derived something immensely valuable from the experience. It has transformed their individual lives, empowering them to confidently advocate for their needs and desires, regardless of their roles.
A heartfelt thank you to Kami, Chelsea, Laura, and to all of you who have taken this journey. I am eagerly looking forward to you tuning in and listening to this enriching discussion.
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Find Chelsea here:
https://www.chelseapaxton.com/
Find Sara here:
https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 26 - I'm Turning 50! (And I have a present for YOU!)
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
It’s my 50th birthday this week and I never truly believed my life could be this good! My life is fulfilling, rich, and brimming with joy, opportunities, and meaningful friendships. It's both nourishing and beautiful, yet also challenging. I couldn't have imagined being where I am now, but here I am. I know many of us are walking together on this path. That's how I see us – co-travelers, supporting each other as we navigate the journey of creating a fulfilling life based on our wanting. So, I wanted to take a moment to reflect on how I got here and share it with you as my birthday gift to YOU! Can’t wait to celebrate together!
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 25 - Sexual Power with Danielle Savory
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
In this episode, Danielle Savory and I dive into the importance of giving ourselves permission to experience pleasure. Danielle is a master-certified coach, podcast host, and expert in neuropsychology, mindfulness, sexual pleasure, and intimacy. While sex and intimacy are essential aspects, it's also about fostering a deeper connection with our bodies. The burden of internal abuse can have both mental and physical consequences. By reconnecting with our bodies, we open up the potential for healing and the ability to experience emotions precisely as we desire. We experience separation from our bodies in many different ways: religion, diet culture, chronic pain, etc. When we acknowledge our discomfort and give ourselves what we need, magic happens. Connecting to your body can open up the possibility of healing and allow you to feel exactly how you would like to. I can’t wait for you to listen!
You can connect with Danielle Savory on IG @thepracticeofpleasure
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 24 - The Powerful Combination of Choice and Voice
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
A revolution happens when women say what they want, especially when their words align with their real feelings. When you can express how you really feel, it makes you feel more comfortable standing up for yourself and setting expectations. One of the key aspects I teach my clients is how to articulate themselves effectively during difficult conversations. We are capable of updating the relationships in our life to match our wants and needs. Connecting to our own wants and needs is a process but it can be an incredible journey. One of the greatest advantages of remaining authentic, no matter the situation, is that there's no need to put on a performance to feel accepted. Having confidence and knowing that we can handle the stress that comes with advocating for ourselves is so important. The ultimate goal is to achieve overall integrity and lasting comfort.
Find Sara here:
https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations
https://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/
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https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333
What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
Episode 23 - How To Say What You Want to Say
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.
In this episode, I'll be sharing my personal experience with speaking up for myself. It's not easy, but it's incredibly rewarding. I hope this episode can help you understand the unease that comes with expressing your true thoughts. The anxiety that arises from speaking up can be overwhelmingly strong, but it's crucial to embrace this new discomfort as it ultimately benefits you. I am not here to dictate what you should say; instead, I want to help you develop an awareness of why you struggle to voice your desires. By recognizing the influences that have shaped you, you can genuinely exercise your ability to choose. The ultimate objective is to find a way to honor ourselves while also respecting others. I am so excited for you to tune in.
Find Sara here:
https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations
https://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/
https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach
https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333
What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
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