THE EX-GOOD GIRL PODCAST

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Sara Bybee Fisk 4/12/23 Sara Bybee Fisk 4/12/23

Episode 10 - Five Challenges That Will Change Your Life

I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.

Do you suppress your true emotions just to avoid conflict and keep the peace? Does your body feel relaxed, or is it trying to tell you how you really feel? Perfectionism, people-pleasing, and codependency can take over our lives. But we can learn to become detectives in our own lives and stop this toxic behavior. Eventually, the changes we make will align with our decision-making process.

In this episode, I explore the Five Challenges that have helped me become the most authentic and real version of myself. We need to be honest with ourselves, learn to ask for what we want, say No more often, be okay with disappointing others, and take care of ourselves. This episode offers many helpful tools to live more freely and comfortably.

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Sara Bybee Fisk 4/5/23 Sara Bybee Fisk 4/5/23

Episode 9 - How to Have Your Own Back

I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.

Learning to have my own back is the most powerful thing I've ever done for myself; it unlocked my potential. Many women internalize their mistakes, leading to a spiral of shameful thoughts that can be very draining. But how can we shut that down? If we bully ourselves, then we're not safe with ourselves, and we're not safe anywhere. You deserve that essential safety. In this episode, I'll help you identify the bullying voice in your head and shut it down. Imagine yourself as a younger version of yourself. Would you allow someone to bully her? Remember, you deserve respect and love from everyone, including yourself. There are steps you can take to shut down the brain bully and stop the negative feedback loop. One of the biggest benefits of this practice is that you can handle trying new things and taking risks. Your fear drops, and you can live more freely overall.

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Sara Bybee Fisk 3/29/23 Sara Bybee Fisk 3/29/23

Episode 8 - Women Wanting: A Guide to Your Superpower

I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.

What is it that you truly desire? After much personal reflection and research, I've come to realize that women's wants and desires are our secret source of power and direction. My goal is for you to have a greater sense of your desires and to understand why it's essential by the end of this episode. Unfortunately, our disconnection from our own desires happens at a very young age. We are raised by caregivers who provide us with love, belonging, and acceptance. However, this also means that children are often seen as less than adults and need to be molded into desirable traits, such as obedience and compliance. This can become problematic because it leads to an adult telling a child how to feel, such as saying "That didn't hurt, you're fine, shake it off." Although this is done with loving concern, it further disconnects us from our own feelings. We learn to not trust our impulses and instead trust outside voices. As we get older, there are more voices trying to influence us, but we need to trust our own voice first. This is why your wanting is your power. It's your inner compass that always points you in the right direction. My definition of a 'good girl' is someone who is overly connected to outside influences and under-connected to herself. Let me help you reconnect with yourself and your aspirations.

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Sara Bybee Fisk 3/22/23 Sara Bybee Fisk 3/22/23

Episode 7 - Too Much and Not Enough

I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.

The patriarchal, capitalist, Western way of life imposes certain values and expectations on the way women think, feel, and choose to live. When we fail to meet these expectations, we can often feel lackluster or unsatisfied. Even if we do attain these expectations, there is always another critique looming about the deficit in our lives. In this episode, we will discuss how perfectionism is a manifestation of these societal pressures, and explore ways to shift our mindset to focus on being better, rather than perfect. It's possible to feel accomplished in this society by doing things that bring us joy and make us feel whole. Instead of fixating on what we could do better, we can focus on celebrating our daily small wins and identifying what truly matters to us. What can you prioritize and celebrate more in your life? What are your daily achievements, no matter how small? How can you experience genuine satisfaction? Join me as I delve into these questions and more.

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Sara Bybee Fisk 3/15/23 Sara Bybee Fisk 3/15/23

Episode 6 - The Goldilocks Zone

I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.

In this episode, we will explore the concept of the Goldilocks Zone. Our Western patriarchal society often tells women that there is a "right" way to be, and as a result, we can feel like we are either too much or not enough. We have been programmed to be hypersensitive to the opinions of others and to internalize those thoughts as if they are facts. There is a balance to be found between being selfish and being a people pleaser. It takes time and guidance to find what feels right for you.

Throughout this podcast, I'll offer you guidance on how to navigate the space between extremes. I'll share tips on how to unplug from outside opinions of what you should be and instead, focus on relentlessly loving yourself. By the end of this episode, you will have a better understanding of how to find your own Goldilocks Zone and embrace your true self.

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Sara Bybee Fisk 3/8/23 Sara Bybee Fisk 3/8/23

Episode 5 - My Story Part 2

I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.

How do our beliefs take shape? Are they ingrained subconsciously? Are you hiding your true feelings or opinions to avoid conflict? Straying from societal norms can be scary, as we may feel left out or isolated. Fear can keep us in a corner, but self-love and embracing our truth can help us break free. In this episode, I will explore how our society and certain groups train women to prioritize agreeableness, friendliness, and compliance. We may be trained to wait for external validation, but we can learn to trust ourselves and our inner dialogue.

Join me as I delve deeper into these topics and offer practical advice on how to speak up for yourself and others.

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Sara Bybee Fisk 3/1/23 Sara Bybee Fisk 3/1/23

Episode 4 - My Story Part 1

I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.

Episodes 4 & 5 are about my story and the experiences that shaped my opinions and views. Experiences can take different forms - they can be both full of love and harmful teachings, create wonderful connections and deep anxiety, and be important for one phase of life but lose their significance as circumstances change. In this episode, I talk about my upbringing in the LDS (Mormon) Church, how it influenced me, and why I ultimately left.

When I created Stop People Pleasing, it was from a deeply personal autobiographical experience. People pleasing can feel like walking through life with 20-pound weights shackled to each ankle. You can do it, but you'll be dragging a lot of resentment, fear, and obligation with you, and you don't have to. Much of what I was taught contributed to this. I'm deeply grateful for some of it, but unlearning some of it was necessary to reclaim my sovereignty.

Whether it was religion, family culture, or society that taught you to be small or less than you are, it's time for the unlearning.

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Sara Bybee Fisk 2/22/23 Sara Bybee Fisk 2/22/23

Episode 3 - Stop The Ride, I Want to Get Off

I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.

So how do we stop being a “Good Girl”? I will dive right into 5 steps you can take to break the cycle of people pleasing, perfectionism, and invite you to join me in recovering from “Good Girl Syndrome”! Do you want to teach your own brain a new way of being? How can we apply these steps at work, with our parents, and families? Is guilt and shame normal and how can we stay out of overwhelm AND feel our feelings? You can learn how to shed the “Good Girl” role and move yourself in the direction of becoming who you want to be in the world! I can help provide you with the tools you will need. Don’t let your discomfort dictate your life. Build trust in yourself and have your own back! I got you and you got this.

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Sara Bybee Fisk 2/20/23 Sara Bybee Fisk 2/20/23

Episode 2 - How Did We Become Good Girls?

I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.

In this episode, I explore HOW we become “Good Girls”. I’ll explain how our socialization and basic needs are met and influenced by our experiences from birth AND lead us to developing our “Good Girl Syndrome”. At its core, people pleasing isn’t necessarily bad! However, we need to learn when and how to stop people pleasing as well, in order to best meet all our needs. I’ll explain the exchange of behavior for rewards and how this phenomenon works to shape us. By identifying and understanding the roles and rules in our lives and how and why they are created and impacting us, we can start to unravel the “Good Girl Syndrome. Most importantly I’ll help you set the stage to challenge these patterns in ways that you can use to step into your full power and best life!

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Sara Bybee Fisk 2/15/23 Sara Bybee Fisk 2/15/23

Episode 1 - What is a Good Girl?

I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him.

Do you expend energy and brain space worrying about what other people think of you? Do you seek praise from others? Are you chronically overwhelmed, overscheduled and overcommitted? Do you feel a lack of choice and freedom because of all your duties, obligations and expectations? Do you get those twinges of deep resentment and frustration towards people who say no to you? If you answered yes to any of these then you may be struggling with what I call “Good Girl Syndrome”. In this podcast episode we will explore this archetype and whether or not it is actually working for you. I will ask you questions that help you discover what you actually want and tell you how you can get it. And finally I will talk about how coaching can help you uncover what is happening when you experience these feelings, whether they are working for you, and what your other options could be.

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