Find Your Outside Voice Part 6 - Your Outside Voice Is Waiting
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How to Find Your Outside Voice is a miniseries leading up to my free workshop, Say What You Need to Say. This series is driven by my deep belief that when women learn how to speak up in ways that feel safe and doable, it can change everything. In this episode, we’re talking about the life of freedom, confidence, and empowerment that is waiting for you on the other side of developing this skill.
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You’ll get three steps you can use this week to find your yes or no — and say it out loud.
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Transcript
00:59
Episode six, mini podcast series, Find Your Outside Voice. Last episode, and I want to talk to you about what it feels like on the other side of this skill. I've talked a lot in this series about what's hard, the hidden tax, the obstacles, the cost of, you know, carrying all these unspoken conversations around.
01:21
And I don't want to leave you there. I want to tell you about what I know is waiting for you. It's freedom. It's confidence. It's empowerment. Because when you are the woman who knows if it's a yes or a no and who can say it, even if it's messy, you are never again held hostage in situations, in relationships that you don't want to be in.
01:53
This to me is the very definition of freedom because when I didn't have this skill, that's what kept me going to church after I knew it wasn't right for me. It's what has kept me anxious for years in friendships when I felt like something was wrong, but I couldn't bring it up.
02:11
It caused so much resentment when I didn't feel like my opinion was something that I could freely share. All of the work that I am going to do with you, I first did on myself. And it is freedom. It is confidence.
02:28
It is empowerment. It is the ability to decide where I want my time and energy to go. And it's the ability to create the life you want in the world. You're going to hear another podcast episode with one of my clients named Jessica.
02:45
And Jessica is an incredible example of this. There was a time when she was very afraid to speak up about anything. And after working with me and after she has put in so much time to know her yes and to know her no and to be able to say it, Jessica is now running for public office.
03:08
It's incredible. And that kind of transformation, whether it's public office or not for you, is available to you. You can learn to say the thing that is true for you. You can learn to handle whatever happens.
03:25
You can learn to be true to what you really want. You don't have to stay quiet and curated anymore. Oh my gosh, that describes so much of my life, like that careful curation, because I just didn't know how to say it.
03:43
So here's what I want you to know about your outside voice. You don't have to do it perfectly. You just have to be willing to say one true thing. Hey, have you ever had a moment where you really wanted to ask for something?
04:02
You wanted to maybe set a limit or tell someone about the support you needed and you just couldn't make yourself say it. Almost like the words got stuck. Me too. And actually, I lived that way for years.
04:15
I felt alone and exhausted. And it's the whole reason that I do the work that I do now. If any part of that sounds familiar, have I got a workshop for you? My next workshop is called Say What You Want to Say, and it is for you if you find that it is really easy to speak up for maybe your clients or your kids or your colleagues, but when it comes to your own personal life, you can't ask for what you want.
04:42
Or maybe you've noticed that you spend a lot of time, days, weeks, maybe even months, rehearsing what you want to say, but then the minute things get uncomfortable, you cave or you apologize or you retreat.
04:55
You're not the problem. You just never learned the skill. Say What You Want to Say is a free one hour workshop that's happening on April 9th at 5 p.m. Pacific. And here's what I can promise. You will leave with one skill and one thing you can actually do that week.
05:13
So you become the woman who can have any conversation she needs to have and handle whatever happens. Check the show notes for the registry link or you can also grab it from my Instagram bio and I'll see you there.
05:27
And here's what I want you to know about your outside voice. It's not necessarily loud and aggressive unless you want it to be. It's not the version of yourself that you were taught to be afraid of. The bitch, the boss, the one who blows things up or makes everything worse.
05:43
That's not true. Your outside voice is just you, honestly. It's you when you know your yes and your no. It says what is true simply, clearly, and sometimes messily, okay. But then it just lets the other person respond.
06:02
That's it. That's the whole thing. It's available to you right now, this week, starting with one conversation you've been avoiding. This workshop, Say What You Need to Say, is where we start. It's free.
06:16
It's an hour. It's three steps that you can use before the week is over. The link is in the show notes, and I want you to be there. If you come to that workshop and something lights up for you, if you leave thinking, I want more of this, I want to do this, the whole thing.
06:34
I want someone in my corner while I'm doing this work, then I want you to know that is exactly what Connected is for. Connected is my group coaching program. I've been running it for seven years under a different name.
06:48
I used to call it Stop People Pleasing, but that name needs an upgrade because we're not just stopping something, we're building something. So connected is where I teach you how to find the exact right words for your actual situation.
07:04
And I teach you the framework for developing the inner sturdiness to say them. And I teach you how to handle whatever comes back, how to stay in the conversation, all of it. That's the full skill, along with six months of other really essential skills to create a life free of people pleasing, free of codependency, where you have relationships that are deeply, deeply connected and valuable.
07:29
The workshop is the beginning. Connected is where it goes next. But I want you to start here with a workshop. One hour, one yes or one no. You're going to say it out loud somewhere small before the week is over.
07:42
You have an outside voice. You always have. I'm just trying to help you find it because the world needs your voice. Right now, more than ever, the world needs women who know how to speak up. Whether it's in your home, whether it's in your social groups or your community groups, we need women who are able to say what needs to be said.
08:05
And I want you to be one of those women. See you soon at the workshop.
