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Sara Bybee Fisk 8/27/24 Sara Bybee Fisk 8/27/24

Episode 77 - Unconventional Choices: Single Mom by Choice with Carla Moats and Paige Dempsey

Welcome to the second episode of my special series on Unconventional Choices. I am so grateful to my guests, Carla Moats and Paige Dempsey, for sharing their journeys to parenthood. In a society that often scrutinizes solo parents, Carla and Paige exemplify courage in making a choice that aligns with their values—the choice to become single mothers.

In addition to being incredible solo parents, Carla and Paige are each incredible coaches, too. Paige is a certified Life and Relationship Coach dedicated to helping women have better relationships by fostering authentic, empowered, and fun connections–with others and themselves! Carla is a financial and money coach for women solopreneurs. She helps her clients quit feeling scared of their finances, take control of their business and personal finances, and put more money in their pockets to live their dream lifestyle.

Join us as we explore what it means to be a parent and a family, and discover how unconventional choices often turn out to be the best choices we’ve ever made. Ditch any preconceived notions you have about family and tune in to celebrate and embrace all paths to parenthood.

I can’t wait for you to listen.

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Sara Bybee Fisk 8/20/24 Sara Bybee Fisk 8/20/24

Episode 76 - Unconventional Choices: Childfree By Choice with Amber Taylor, Pauline Yan, Melissa G Wirt, and Dr. Susie Castellanos Hansley

I’m thrilled to kick off my “Unconventional Choices” series with an incredible lineup of guests and fellow coaches—Amber Taylor, Pauline Yan, Melissa G. Wirt, and Dr. Susie Castellanos Hansley—all of whom have chosen to remain child-free. Together, we challenge societal norms and our “good-girl” programming as we discuss the pressures of motherhood and womanhood while celebrating the empowerment that comes from intentional choices. This conversation is for everyone interested in the diversity of women’s experiences and embracing our unique journeys without shame or judgment. I can’t wait for you to listen.

Amber Taylor (She/Her), also known as the Pleasure Priority Coach, uses her skills to help Black Millenials navigate the gap between the peace and fulfillment they thought they’d feel and what they actually feel despite their achievements. Amber helps her clients curate fulfilling relationships and to never settle for less.

Website: https://www.ambertaylorcoaching.com/

Pauline Yan, CFA, CAIA (She/Her) is a financial educator and coach. After 16 successful years at a financial firm, she now helps women and first-time investors navigate the complex landscape of the stock market to make sound investments.

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Melissa G Wirt (She/Her) is a dual-certified life coach who helps people in midlife and beyond get unstuck and feel better about their careers and relationships. With compassion and understanding, she helps clients take doable steps to create results they didn’t think possible.

Website: www.melissagwirt.com

Dr. Susie Castellanos Hansley (She/Her) is the Stress LESS Coach. A former academic and Master Certified Life Coach, she helps smart, high achievers ditch the stressed version of themselves, create work-life balance, and live joyful lives without giving up on their career goals.

Website: https://www.lifecoachsusie.com,

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Sara Bybee Fisk 8/13/24 Sara Bybee Fisk 8/13/24

Episode 75 - How To Drink Like a Woman Who Loves Herself with Colleen Kachmann

I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him. This lack of safety and insecurity in our relationship, I eventually realized, existed because I wasn’t safe with myself, and it wasn’t until I learned to create that safety with me that I could start to create safety in our relationship. When I did learn to become secure in myself, I was able to see more clearly what needed to change in our marriage, and I had the strength to ask for that change. In this episode, I talk about how I learned to create security with myself and how from there, I began creating security in my marriage and all my relationships. For those of you who are, like I was, feeling stuck in a painful relationship, I hope this episode will give you some clues into your own process of creating security in yourself first and in your relationships second. I can’t wait for you to listen, and I’d love to hear your thoughts when you do.

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Sara Bybee Fisk 8/6/24 Sara Bybee Fisk 8/6/24

Episode 74 - The Female Double Bind and How to Get OUT

With everything happening in our world right now, especially politically here in the United States, we need to talk about the female double blind–the impossible double standards to which women are held that create no-win situations for us. So many examples of this show up in our everyday lives and are perpetuated by the media, and it needs to stop.

In this episode, I delve into these double standards and the language that reinforces them, all aimed at keeping women from attaining leadership and power. As strong women, it’s time to dissect, understand, and reject the female double bind, no matter where you fall on the political spectrum. It’s time to see these double standards, call them out, and hold those perpetuating them accountable. The female double bind is always a trap, but together, we have the power to reject and rise above it. I can’t wait for you to listen.

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Sara Bybee Fisk 7/30/24 Sara Bybee Fisk 7/30/24

Episode 73 - What I'm Working On At The Moment

This episode is all about honesty and vulnerability as I share what I’m currently working on in my life. While I’m a coach, I’m a person, too. As a person, I struggle with and navigate many challenges, especially those specifically related to womanhood. These experiences, part of my ongoing journey of growth and learning, make me a great coach and, despite what negative self-talk might try to convince me, a great human, just like you. So, if you’re struggling with anything or working through something, I want you to know that I’m in it with you, and I’m here to support you. Can’t wait for you to listen.

Here’s a link to Episode 59: Transparency as a Woman in the Self-Help World, referenced in this episode.

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Sara Bybee Fisk 7/23/24 Sara Bybee Fisk 7/23/24

Episode 72 - Sneaky People Pleasing

Did you know that people pleasing can be subtle–even sneaky? People pleasing goes far beyond the stereotypical inability to say “no.” In this episode, I reveal the people pleasing tendencies that catch us off guard–things like excessive politeness, perfectionism, and difficulty setting boundaries. Because it can show up in so many different ways, you need both deep self-connection and a capacity for discomfort to break free from people pleasing. Join me to learn how to recognize all of your people pleasing behaviors and how to increase your threshold for discomfort so you can start living as your authentic self. I can’t wait for you to listen.

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Sara Bybee Fisk 7/16/24 Sara Bybee Fisk 7/16/24

Episode 71 - I'm Not Living The Beautiful Life I Could Be with Angie Wilson

I’m so grateful for my beautiful conversation with this week’s guest, Angie Wilson. Angie Wilson is a certified life coach specializing in helping women love their lives after divorce. With a master's degree in social work, Angie brings a rich background of experience to her coaching practice. She worked as a therapist and case manager for two years before dedicating 15 years to being a full-time homeschooling mom to her four amazing kids.

In this episode, we dive into our shared background of growing up in conservative, religious families and how this experience impacted our people pleasing tendencies and years of perfectionating. Most importantly, we talk about our journeys to the other side–when we stopped looking outside ourselves for answers and started tuning into our intuition, needs, and desires. Angie's journey, one through divorce, was the most challenging experience of her life. Emerging stronger and more authentic, she transformed into a confident, independent woman.

Now, Angie is passionate about guiding other women through recovery after divorce, helping them heal, grow, and find joy and fulfillment. With her compassionate approach and personal insight, Angie empowers her clients to embrace their new beginnings with confidence and optimism, and she brings that same energy to our conversation. I can’t wait for you to listen.

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Sara Bybee Fisk 7/10/24 Sara Bybee Fisk 7/10/24

Episode 70 - "I am so F*cking Proud of Myself" - Conversations with Women Who Have Stopped People Pleasing

I am so grateful to have had the opportunity to sit down with Allyssya Gossett, Abby Wolfson, and Jayne Newman to dig into what it's like to be a woman programmed to people please—and what it's like to be a woman who stops.

Allyssya is an educator and life coach who helps women step outside their comfort zone and into confidence so they can live the life they imagine. Abby is a child sleep coach, a parent coach to single moms by choice, a former pediatric nurse practitioner, and a mom of three. And Jayne is a self-described recovering people pleaser with a familiar story: good times, bad times—life—but one that keeps getting better as she goes.

All three of these remarkable women have gone through the Stop People Pleasing program and done the incredibly hard work of learning to live honestly and authentically despite other people’s discomfort. In the episode, each of them shares what the process has been like, how their world has shifted, and what happened that they didn't expect—like how eliminating people pleasing hasn't made them selfish but instead made them value their wants and needs equally. Or how eliminating people pleasing hasn’t meant changing their personality but showing up as their real self. Finally, they share about how hard this work is and how the support of other women makes them feel brave enough to do it. I hope this episode will help you find clarity, solidarity, and courage wherever you are on the journey to stop people pleasing.

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Sara Bybee Fisk 7/3/24 Sara Bybee Fisk 7/3/24

Episode 69 - Awareness, Capacity and Skills Part Two: Listen In On This Coaching Call

Welcome to part two of my series on how to make lasting, positive changes in your life. In part one, I shared my framework for change and three things you need to make it work: awareness, capacity, and skills. In this episode, I share a conversation I had during a coaching call with an amazing client. During this call, we discussed how she uses awareness, capacity, and the skills she's been learning in our sessions to stop abandoning herself and stop people pleasing. I am so grateful that she agreed to share this snippet from her session so that you can hear how awareness, capacity, and skills facilitate the shift to honoring yourself in real-life situations for lasting, positive change. After you listen, don’t forget to sign up for From Stuck to Secure, my masterclass and workshop series kicking off on June 25th, so you, too, can feel confident and secure as you learn to honor your needs and show up for yourself.

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Sara Bybee Fisk 6/26/24 Sara Bybee Fisk 6/26/24

Episode 68 - The Three Things You Need to Make a Change: Awareness, Capacity and Skills Part One

Do you know what you need to make a change? I do. I can’t wait to share my framework for change with you. To make a lasting change, you need three things: awareness, capacity, and skills. In this episode, I share real-life strategies and examples of these three elements, and I invite you to join me on July 15 from 1-2 PM PST for a free skill-building workshop. It’s easy to get stuck on the “skills” part of making a change, which is why my Stop People Pleasing group coaching programs and workshops are designed to empower you to develop and practice new skills with courage, openness, and support. Get ready to delve into the process of change and learn how to navigate the discomfort that often accompanies it. I can’t wait for you to listen.

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Sara Bybee Fisk 6/19/24 Sara Bybee Fisk 6/19/24

Episode 67 - Expanding Your Capacity for Pleasure with Danielle Savory

I’m excited to welcome Danielle Savory back to the show this week. Danielle is a master-certified coach, podcast host, and expert in neuropsychology, mindfulness, sexual pleasure, and intimacy. When she last joined us in episode 25, “Sexual Power with Danielle Savory,” she left us with the wisdom that “a woman's ability to be present in her body, to seek out and create pleasure for herself, to know what she wants and needs, and to be able to ask for it is the pinnacle of self-connection.” In this episode, we take a deep dive into what this means and explore the importance of giving ourselves permission to experience pleasure. Internal abuse and habitual social conditioning both take a toll on us, not just mentally but physically as well. By connecting with our bodies, we unlock the potential for healing and the ability to experience emotions exactly as we desire. It's a powerful journey toward self-discovery and fulfillment.⁠ I can’t wait for you to listen.

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Sara Bybee Fisk 6/12/24 Sara Bybee Fisk 6/12/24

Episode 66 - From Stuck to Secure

This week’s podcast is an invitation. An invitation to stop feeling “stuck.” An invitation to step into the security and self-connection you need to move forward. Most importantly, it is an invitation to join my masterclass and workshop series, From Stuck to Secure, designed specifically for individuals seeking to improve their relationships, gain self-connection, find real belonging, and break free from people pleasing. In this episode, I share my personal journey of going from being stuck to being secure in my relationships. I emphasize the power of security, particularly security within yourself. Without it, you’re most likely trapped in a toxic and exhausting cycle of people pleasing and seeking endless external validation. But with security, you can take control – share your needs, take risks, and show up in every aspect of your life as your authentic YOU. It's about empowering yourself to be in charge of your happiness and fulfillment.

I can’t wait for you to listen and to join From Stuck to Secure: Your Playbook for Changing Any Relationship, a masterclass in secure relationships, for an incredible value of just $37. Starting at the end of June, this masterclass and workshop series offers comprehensive information, personal guidance, and practical strategies that you’ll practice immediately. Here’s what to expect:

Two 90-minute interactive masterclasses, held in the evenings on June 25 and June 27, where you’ll learn to create security within yourself and your relationships. During these classes, you’ll make a playbook for yourself to put what you learn into action.
From June 28 – July 7, you’ll get an exclusive mini podcast series with additional and personal encouragement from me as you take the week to put your playbook into action.
On July 8, we’ll come together for a live group coaching session. This session will be a safe space for you to share your experiences, ask questions, and receive feedback. We’ll talk about what worked, what didn’t, and how to keep progressing. It's a unique opportunity to learn from others and build a supportive community.
You’ll wrap up with a one-on-one session with me, where we’ll dive into your specific journey. This personalized attention is designed to get you to a place where, no matter what comes your way, you can confidently say: “I approve of myself, and I can handle anything.”

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Sara Bybee Fisk 6/5/24 Sara Bybee Fisk 6/5/24

Episode 65 - The People Pleaser's Guide to Co-Parenting with Mikki Gardner

I really enjoyed my insightful and empowering conversation with this week’s guest, Mikki Gardner. Mikki is a mom to a teenage son, a Certified Life + Conscious Parenting Coach, the host of the Co-Parenting with Confidence podcast, and the bestselling author of the People Pleasers Guide to Co-Parenting Well. After navigating her own divorce hurdles and emerging stronger, she has made it her mission to help moms gain clarity so they can navigate divorce and co-parent with love and confidence. This week, we discuss co-parenting, whether we are still married to the person we're co-parenting with or not, whether they're another family member or someone else with whom we have a relationship. Mikki shares beautiful parenting principles and practical strategies on how to break free from societal conditioning and shift your energy to move away from what you don’t want and towards what you do want so you can be the actively loving parent your child needs. I can’t wait for you to listen.

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Sara Bybee Fisk 5/29/24 Sara Bybee Fisk 5/29/24

The Ex-Good Girl Podcast is taking a break!

Because everybody needs a break sometimes, the Ex-Good Girl podcast is on a four week break. We'll be back on June 5th with new episodes.

Until then, listen to some of your old favorites, get caught up, or join my Stop People Pleasing Facebook group by finding the link in the show notes below.

I can't wait to connect with you.

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Sara Bybee Fisk 5/23/24 Sara Bybee Fisk 5/23/24

The Ex-Good Girl Podcast is taking a break!

Because everybody needs a break sometimes, the Ex-Good Girl podcast is on a four week break. We'll be back on June 5th with new episodes.

Until then, listen to some of your old favorites, get caught up, or join my Stop People Pleasing Facebook group by finding the link in the show notes below.

I can't wait to connect with you.

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Sara Bybee Fisk 5/15/24 Sara Bybee Fisk 5/15/24

The Ex-Good Girl Podcast is taking a break!

Because everybody needs a break sometimes, the Ex-Good Girl podcast is on a four week break. We'll be back on June 5th with new episodes.

Until then, listen to some of your old favorites, get caught up, or join my Stop People Pleasing Facebook group by finding the link in the show notes below.

I can't wait to connect with you.

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Sara Bybee Fisk 5/8/24 Sara Bybee Fisk 5/8/24

The Ex-Good Girl Podcast is taking a break!

Because everybody needs a break sometimes, the Ex-Good Girl podcast is on a four week break. We'll be back on June 5th with new episodes.

Until then, listen to some of your old favorites, get caught up, or join my Stop People Pleasing Facebook group by finding the link in the show notes below.

I can't wait to connect with you.

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Episode 64 - How I Created a Secure Relationship With My Husband

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Sara Bybee Fisk 4/24/24 Sara Bybee Fisk 4/24/24

Episode 63 - Writing Your Way Back to You with AshMae Hoiland

I’m incredibly thankful for Ashmae Hoiland for creating such an engaging conversation this week. Ashmae is a talented writer, painter, and maker.

Ashmae’s upcoming essay collection, Letters to a Leaving Mormon, will be released on November 1, 2024. Ahead of its release, we wanted to speak about how writing- one of the most ancient practices of humankind- helps us to better know and understand ourselves.

Because of all of the programming we get through school and what constitutes “good“ writing, many of us are hesitant to write. We often believe that we have to write in a manner that will please someone when they read it, or share stories that are inspiring or happy. Writing can feel perforative and hard, especially when we are doing it for someone else. Writing doesn’t have to be that. Writing can be an exploration of dark places, confusion, loose ends- it doesn’t have to be pretty. You don’t need to tell a story for posterity — you need to tell it for yourself.

I’m very excited for you to listen.

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