Stop People Pleasing
The group coaching program for “good girls” who are sick and tired of being stuck in people pleasing and perfectionism.
You’re a good mom, a good partner, a good employee.
But you’ve started to notice that what is “good” for others isn’t always good for you.
You’re usually anxious and constantly exhausted.
You’re worried that if you do what’s best for you, others aren’t going to like it, but that if you don’t, you’ll end up feeling frustrated and resentful–again.
Maybe you freeze in fear when a client sends an email asking to renegotiate the contract you’ve already signed. You ignore the email and bury yourself in some chocolate instead.
Maybe you exhaust yourself reading takeout menus from dozens of places to find one that will please everyone. Eventually, you give up and pay triple the fee to order from multiple places.
Maybe you’ve just yelled at your child, again, telling them to “HURRY UP!” so the carpool mom waiting outside doesn’t get annoyed. Now, you feel intense shame and worry about how you will make this outburst up to your child.
In short, you find yourself constantly trying to manage the emotions of others and mitigate their disappointment, while ignoring your own. You often put the validation and feelings of strangers or acquaintances above your most important relationships. You never prioritize yourself.
You’re stuck in a familiar cycle of frustration, resentment, shame, guilt, and people pleasing because you’ve been programmed to be a “good girl.”
But that isn’t working for you anymore, and I want you to know CHANGE IS POSSIBLE.
It makes sense that you’re stuck between these two extremes- the frustration and resentment followed by guilt and shame and…more people pleasing.
Because you’ve been programmed to be a ‘good girl’.
And so far, that has meant doing as much as you can for other people in your life in a ‘nice’, ‘generous’ way.
But that just doesn’t work for you anymore.
I want you to know…
It’s possible to shift ALL of your relationships so there’s also room for you, your needs, your desires AS WELL as those of other people.
When you do, that’s when:
You are able to do what is best for you even if it means disappointing other people
You are able to make decisions without hours (or days!) of overthinking and worrying
You are able to set and hold boundaries that work for you and for other people
You are able to balance your needs and wants with everyone else’s in a kind, loving way.
And I’ve created the exact program to support you to do exactly this.
Stop People Pleasing
Group Coaching Program
In this 24-week program, you will:
Understand why you people please.
Learn to recognize the hidden dynamics at play that make it feel impossible NOT to people please.
Use proven skills and tools to create a doable, safe way to stop people pleasing that feels right for you.
Learn how to do what is best for you, even when it means disappointing others.
Make decisions without hours (or days!) of overthinking and worrying.
Set and hold boundaries that work for you and for other people.
Learn to balance your needs and wants with everyone else’s in a kind, loving way.
Stop letting the opinions or actions of others hold you hostage from living your life.
Go from being your biggest critic to your biggest fan.
Learn how to prioritize and uplift the relationships that matter most to you, without people pleasing, perfectionism and codependency.
Start to show up in the world as YOU, and LOVE DOING IT!
It’s possible to shift ALL of your relationships to make room for you–your needs, your desires, your wants–AND care for others in a healthy way. Join my group coaching program to make this shift today.
When a woman learns to stop people pleasing, perfectionating and being codependent, that IS the revolution and it starts with YOU.
Wondering what the deal is with group coaching?
Are you ready for transformation?
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The program content was applicable to all areas of life: relationships at home, at work, with friends, in the community. I enjoyed the alternating teaching/coaching weeks, and I liked the homework. You're an amazing, gifted and beautiful teacher and coach, and I think you already know that but it bears repeating.
Laura
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I had no idea how much I was people pleasing until I joined your group! Really, it's astounding. I'm still processing everything I've learned. What I appreciated most was the action steps you gave us regarding having difficult conversations- that's something I'm avoiding doing in my own life because I don't want to hurt other people. You showed me how I'm hurting myself when I do that by not telling the truth. Thank you!
Anonymous
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The 1:1 coaching call was the best! My biggest takeaway was how common this problem is. I loved hearing others be coached also. Something important I learned was to let go of some of my black and white thinking. It was also great to learn by example: both what Sara shared from her own life and from other students.
Sam
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I started using your suggestions in my life and have actually been able to calibrate what I want to say and how I want to say it with direction now. There is nothing I would change about this course, it was brilliant. More of it, please! It was so nice to see how authentically you can bring this topic across. I LOVED that you showed us what's possible, and how you redirected to the methods at hand to demonstrate how they work. Thank you!!
Katharina
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I most valued having a dedicated space each week just for me. As a coach myself, I'm holding space for others all day long, and it's a gift to have Sara hold space for me. I'm becoming someone more capable of naming, experiencing and processing my emotions. After taking this course, it's much more possible to have self-compassion. When I'm feeling a big emotion, it's much easier to ask myself, ’How does this make complete sense?’ I feel like in just a few short sessions I've already upleveled my own coaching just from being coached by Sara. My biggest takeaway so far is that I can be more effective when I'm willing to feel the feels, and that my emotions have invaluable insights to offer when I'm willing to listen. I'm grateful for the work Sara does and honored to be her client!
Crystal
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This class came at just the right time for me. After taking this course, I now see the many ways women are taught to be people pleasers. I notice it now in movies, books, and everyday life. My biggest takeaway was the “pause” statements to give me time to decide what I really want to do. I now feel able to handle the thought that I’ll be uncomfortable whether I say yes or no to a request. I can choose my discomfort and be honest with myself.
Andi