SPEAK UP CLUB

Become the woman who always knows the right words to say and is brave enough to say them.

Weekly, real-time coaching and practice so the hard conversations stuck in your head finally happen in real life without rehearsing conversations for days, blowing up, shutting down, or wondering if you'll ruin the relationship.

If you're a capable woman who handles everything life throws at her -

except speaking up for herself...

You've heard that confidence is what makes hard conversations possible.

Here's what's actually true:

Confidence isn't where you start.

It's where you end up.

Find the right words.

Know exactly what you want to say - clearly, kindly, and without backing down.

Your nervous system learns to stay regulated so you stop freezing, panicking, or saying "never mind" right when it matters most.

Stay in the conversation.

Build real confidence.

Every conversation becomes evidence you can do it again. Evidence becomes identity.

Stop spending your mental energy rehearsing conversations in your head. Start actually having them.

Get your life back.

You can handle almost anything

- except speaking up for yourself.

You're about to have a conversation that matters.
Maybe it's with your husband, your mom, your boss, or your best friend.

You hope this time will be different- that the words you've rehearsed 47 times will finally come out.

Instead, your heart starts racing, your mind goes blank, and you hear yourself say, "Never mind. It's fine." Or the conversation blows up and ends badly.

Then you spend the next several days replaying it.

Regretting what you said.
Looking for better words.

Waiting for the right moment - or better yet, hoping they'll notice something is wrong so you won't have to bring it up yourself.

What's so frustrating is that this isn't who you are anywhere else.

—You'll advocate fiercely for your child.
—You'll have a hard conversation with a client.

But when it's your turn, something changes.

"What if they think I'm selfish?"

"What if they're disappointed?"

"What if I hurt them?"

"What if this changes the relationship?"

You don't want to explode, and you don't want to stay quiet either. You just don't know how to tell the truth without risking the relationship.

So you wait.

Resentment grows.

Loneliness grows.

And the relationship you were trying so hard to protect slowly becomes the kind of relationship where important things don't get said.

But that's still not the biggest cost.

You didn't just rehearse that conversation 47 times.

You gave it 47 pieces of your attention.

Hours become days. Days become months. Months become years.

Years of your one life spent carrying conversations instead of having them.

Even though speaking up is the obvious answer, knowing how to do it is anything but obvious.

Most women don't speak up because nobody taught them how.

They know what they want to say.
They can see what's at stake.
They understand why it matters.

And in the moment that counts, something shuts them down anyway.

Here's what that costs: every conversation you don't have is a relationship that stays exactly where it is.

No deeper.
No more honest.
No more alive.

The relationship you most want is on the other side of the conversation you keep avoiding.

Four reasons most women who want to speak up still can't.

REASON 1: She doesn't know what she actually wants.
Most women focus so hard on managing the other person's reaction that they lose track of their own truth. The conversation falls apart before it even starts.

REASON 2: She doesn't have the words.
She's rehearsed it 47 times. But when the moment comes, her mind goes blank. Having a clear, practiced sentence - one that's been said out loud before - changes everything.

REASON 3: Her nervous system hits the eject button.
She had the words, she was ready. Then her heart started racing, the other person's face changed, and she felt flooded with fear and said "never mind." This is an untrained nervous system. And it can be trained.

REASON 4: She's never had anywhere to practice.
Reading about hard conversations doesn't prepare you for them. You become someone who speaks up by practicing speaking up - in a low-stakes environment, with coaching, before it really matters.

THIS WORKSHOP IS FOR YOU IF

You have something you need to say and you keep rewriting it- every version either sounds too harsh or too soft and nothing sounds like you

You try and say what you mean but with all of the backpedaling you walk away feeling like you didn't actually say it.

The moment you imagine saying it out loud, something shuts down- your chest tightens, your mind goes blank, and you talk yourself out of it again

You’ve been told to “just be more direct” without anyone ever showing you what that actually looks like in the moment

You want to say the thing without blowing up the relationship or caving- again

What women say…

“I talked to my parents last night. It went better than I thought it would, and I felt really amazing about the way I showed up for myself. They said the things I expected- but the emotional tenor wasn’t nearly as intense. I was able to be really solid and present with myself and say what I wanted to say without needing it to be received well. It’s a really big shift in how I’m going to show up going forward.”

— Alex

“Working with Sara has been instrumental in driving the type of change I wanted in my life. By learning to create safety in myself, I’m able to show up more authentically and I stop wasting time beating myself up.”

— Beth

“Between Sara’s dynamic coaching and detailed action formulas, several relationships have improved greatly. Tangible results: set boundaries with family members, asked my adult children for what I need, told a friend the truth about the impact of her words and actions without blaming, let go of a friendship that wasn’t healthy for me and did it with kindness.”

— Brenda

“I managed to have a difficult conversation with a friend. She was genuinely mortified that her comment had such an impact. We feel more connected having had that conversation.”

— Marie

“I now can say no with confidence without having to justify my reason and my mind isn’t ruminating for the next 24 hours.”

— Mikaela

This is a working workshop.
You'll bring a conversation you need to have. You leave with your actual sentences built and ready and knowing how to feel safe enough to actually say them.

HERE’S WHAT WE COVER:

STEP 1

Know your conversation

Not all conversations require the same approach. A boundary with a coworker and a hard truth with your partner are different operations. You’ll learn to identify exactly what kind of conversation you’re in- and how to prepare accordingly.

STEP 2

Like your reasons

You don’t need a guaranteed outcome to justify saying the thing. You need a reason you believe in. We cover how to find it- and why it matters more than the perfect words.

STEP 3

The Clarity Scale

A 1-to-10 framework for finding the right words. The “good girl rules” taught women to communicate at a 1 or 2 without realizing the whole rest of the scale is available to them. You’ll learn to start at 10 and work your way to the sentence that’s both true and sayable.

STEP 4

Say it at the right moment

The same sentence lands differently depending on timing, tone, and how you open. You’ll learn how to make it easier for the other person to actually hear you- without softening what you need to say.

STEP 5

Take care of the scared part

The part of you that freezes before hard conversations is usually young. It learned what was safe to say a long time ago. You’ll learn how to find that part, care for it, and move forward anyway.

STEP 6

Mental rehearsal

Your brain responds to vivid mental rehearsal the same way it responds to actual experience. We build the practice so the conversation feels familiar before you ever say a word out loud.

I'M READY TO SAY IT WITH CLARITY

  • "I LOVE WHAT AND HOW YOU TEACH. And I need to really start saying what I mean and need."

    —Nancy

  • "I'm here because there are so many times I simply hold back my feelings and then I feel upset about it. So I want to change that."

    —Jane

  • "I recently had to set a hard boundary with a close friend who had become very toxic. After I finally did that, it was a huge relief."

    —Avery

  • "Thank you so much! This was wonderful."

    —Leslie

  • "This was great, thank you!"

    —Kelly

  • "I listen to all your podcasts and so much resonates. Loved the 'find your outside voice' series."

    —Jessica

  • "Self-abandonment is too costly."

    —Ryan

  • "Thanks Sara. I shall no longer accept invalidation from myself or others. Dismantling was brutal but the rebuilding is exciting."

    —Missy

  • "Thanks for this free but extremely valuable training, Sara!"

    —Wendy

  • "This hour itself was worth a lot to me - and I say that as someone who has done lots of 'work' on myself for many years. I love your style of coaching, Sara!"

    —Chloe

  • "I don't have hard conversations. I just let things go because I am scared of the response and what will happen."

    —Amanda

  • "This was impactful, genuine and sincere. I appreciate the thoughtful reflections and prompts to think about long-term impact of continuing the same old habits. This was great!"

    —Jacki

You're not the problem.

You just never learned the skill.

YOUR COACH

SARA BYBEE FISK

"I'm so afraid you'll leave me if I show you who I really am and what I really want."

That’s one of the bravest, hardest things I’ve ever said.


For the first 10 years of our marriage, I hid behind a wall I didn’t know how to take down.

I loved my husband and wanted to be closer to him, but I didn’t know how to talk about what hurt me, what bothered me, what enraged me, and how much I needed him without blowing up or shutting down.


So I armored up and performed being the “good” wife, friend, mom and daughter- because this wall  existed in all of my relationships. 


Most of the time I looked “fine” on the outside- productive and capable- but I felt alone, resentful and anxious underneath.

Year after year the armor got heavier and heavier- until the moment came where I had to say something. 


It was messy and hard.
And it changed everything.
First in my relationship with him, and then every other relationship in my life. 

I know this pain and struggle because I lived it. And I want to teach you the way out: how to find your yes or no- and say it out loud, starting somewhere small, starting this week.

You don’t have to do it perfectly.
You just have to be willing to take the first step.

I'M READY TO SPEAK UP